FAQ Page


This document answers the most Frequently Asked Questions about the Crimson Moon LLC parties; etiquette, limits, who may attend, and more. Permission is granted to repost, copy, print, e-mail, transmit or otherwise disseminate this FAQ, provided you do so in its entirety. Copyright is retained by Crimson Moon LLC
  1. What is Crimson Moon?
  2. How do I become a member?
  3. Who are we?
  4. Who may attend parties?
  5. Privacy and positive identification.
  6. What is allowed at a Crimson Moon party?
  7. Is there a dress code?
  8. Safety Concerns.
  9. What does it cost to attend a party?
  10. What is the party schedule?
  11. What paperwork is required?
  12. How can I contact Crimson Moon?

We are a private, membership based social club for adults who wish to practice safe, sane, consensual spanking both in and out of a group setting. While other aspects of BDSM are frequently of additional interest to some club members, our main focus is spanking.  However, it is possible you may see scenes other than spanking enacted in public spaces (i.e. bondage, flogging, caning, etc.).  We ask you be as respectful of these scenes, as you would an otk spanking scene.  Regarding more hardcore BDSM activities, we request that these practices be limited to private rooms, and designated party suites.  Our club was founded in 1993, and is the oldest continually running spanking club in the U.S.A.

To become a member of the Crimson Moon social club, you must first fill out a membership application. This can be done either one of two ways you may Fill out the Online Application (in its entirety) which will automatically be sent directly to us. If you prefer, you may download and print a copy of the Application Form (available in both Word and Text format toward the bottom of the Application page), fill it out, sign it in ink, and then mail it to our address as shown on the form.  Please remember it is VERY important you fill out the ENTIRE application. After your application has been approved and entered into our database, you will receive a "Welcome To Crimson Moon" email. Paying for, and attending your first hotel party, officially makes you a member of the club. You will remain a member simply by attending at least one other party within three calendar years. If you do not attend another party within this time frame, you must reapply for membership. There are no dues.


We're just like everyone else: many of us are married, with or without kids; many of us are single and may be looking for our ideal life partner. We represent every possible occupation, from accountant and engineer to chemist, truck driver, actor, and doctor. We are all ethnicities, ages, economic backgrounds, sexual orientations and identities. Our ratio of men to women at parties is about 50/50, and we regulate party attendance to try and maintain that figure.

Only Members in good standing may attend parties (see "How Do I Become a Member", above, for details). Pets are not permitted, as they cannot give consent to be spanked! We operate as a private club, open to all people, regardless of race, creed, color, age, handicaps, sexual orientation, and/or gender identification. However, we believe bullying behavior, false accusations and bigotry of any kind is incompatible with our scene and our club. Those engaging in these practices will not be welcome at Crimson Moon parties. Likewise for people with predatory tendencies, and stalkers. Thus, as a private club, we reserve the right of refusal to any person or persons we deem unsuitable for membership in Crimson Moon.

For the safety of our other guests, ALL persons wishing to attend a party MUST provide positive proof of their identity the first time you attend a party.  This can be done with either a photo drivers license, passport, or other government issued photo ID. We require your real name, mailing address and phone number, to be able to identify you to the police should Management consider that to be necessary. (In 24 years, this has never been necessary.)  Access to this information will be restricted to the active Board Members of Crimson Moon, and not released without your permission, save as noted above. You may be known at the party under any name you wish, which will be used on your name tag.  If you cannot abide revealing your true identity to the Crimson Moon Board, then you should not attempt to attend a party!  We're sorry, but for the protection of all members, NO exceptions to this requirement will be made for any reason.

See our privacy policy


We are all adults (minimum age 19), and the club has no say in what takes place behind closed doors among consenting adults. That said, intimate sexual contact, drinking of alcoholic beverages, and drugs, are not permitted in group areas.  We are not a swingers or hard core BDSM club. The only "swinging" that takes place in our party room is the swing of paddles, crops, canes and floggers! Everyone is expected to be on their best behavior; inappropriate touching or fondling of anyone WILL result in prompt expulsion from the party and the club.  NO, MEANS NO!

You should also be aware, some people may play at a level of intensity which may not interest, or may even offend you, without violating our Code of Conduct.  If that happens, simply turn away and observe something else.  Just because someone else is getting whipped, caned, or whatever, don't think anyone expects you to do it, too. However, if someone politely asks you, please don't be offended either.

You can expect to see spanking with or without implements; over clothes or on the bare bottom; one-on-one or (sometimes) two-on-one; one spanking with everyone else watching, or everyone spanking at once.  ALL of these activities and more can be expected in the party room at one time or another. We may play or organize games to break the ice and get people into a party mood, or we may not!  Above all else, HAVE FUN!!

All party suites are NO SMOKING areas.  Smokers must go outside to light up


There is no formal dress code for Crimson Moon parties. 

At Halloween of course, costumes are expected. Plan ahead and try to make something yourself rather than just rent. It's cheaper and more fun that way!  

For the Summer party, outfits range from casual (jeans and t-shirts), to the kind of clothes you might wear to a cocktail party or on a date, to leather and other scene-wear. Be comfortable, and be you.  

Also think hygiene
! Unclean persons won't get to play, and may well be invited to leave and not return. Have respect for yourself and those about you. Don't eat a meal beforehand that tends to give you gas!

Clean and attractive is the key, regardless of whether you spank or get spanked. Whether top or bottom, women like men who are well dressed, clean smelling, friendly and confident. Some women like to spank authoritatively dressed men, others like to be spanked by them. We strongly urge our members to take advantage of our Fetlife group, and get to know the other members who will be attending each party, well in advance of the event. That way, you won't be total strangers when you actually meet in-person.

Remember, no matter what you are wearing, male or female, every spanker must get your permission before raising or lowering anything.


Every spankee is required to have a safeword, which in the absence of other arrangements is "SAFEWORD". Commonly used safewords include the "green - yellow - red " sequence, and "mercy". Spankers are required to instantly and without question STOP if the safeword is used. Use of the safeword terminates the scene, unless and until resumed by mutual consent. Spankees who fail to use their "SAFEWORD" when their limits are exceeded have only themselves to blame for what may follow. Discuss safewords and limits before beginning a spanking.

Crimson Moon Management and security will work to prevent problems of friction between our group and "vanilla's" in the same wing or floor of the hotel. While the members of the club can be expected to act as concerned citizens in any situation involving disputes between attendees, including providing physical protection for anyone who may be in fear of another, we are not the police and cannot act as police officers. You should generally comport yourself as you would at any cocktail party or adult social event. Physical violence, anger, verbal abuse or other uncouth behavior is cause for eviction from the party, and even the club.


Please see the schedule page for the list of parties and what each will cost. Keep in mind our hotel parties are both 3 day affairs, not just a single night lasting 4 or 5 hours.

Crimson Moon DOES NOT OFFER REFUNDS on party fees (we already spent your money to host the party, whether you attend or not). If you cannot attend a party for which you have paid, you must inform us no later than 24 hours prior to the start of the party.  Once we are informed you cannot attend, you will have a credit due which you may apply to a future event.  If you do not inform us of your inability to attend within the required time frame, you will forfeit your party fee.


See the Schedule page for details. Our parties are generally held at hotels within a 15-mile radius of O'Hare airport.  People from all over the country, as well as Canada and Europe, attend these parties.

Read the Code of Conduct. When you sign the Application Form, you are agreeing to abide by these rules, so please read them first!

Download or fill out the online Application Form. You MUST include this SIGNED form with your payment, unless one is already on file with us, for EACH person attending the party. We keep this form on file for at least 3 years after your last party, or your initial application, whichever is most recent.



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US MAIL: Crimson Moon LLC
P.O. BOX 2031
Upper Darby, PA 19082